DRESS SHOPPING Mistakes Brides Make | Tips from a Bridal Consultant

DRESS SHOPPING Mistakes Brides Make | Tips from a Bridal Consultant

hey guys okay so a bunch of you after I posted my first Bridal video what did I when I make that a wedding dress shopping tips I'm like what doesn't I even make that Bridal video and some requests to do more Bridal related videos for those you who don't know I have been in the bridal industry for the last six going on seven years when I say bridal industry I mean specifically dresses I wanted to make a video about the top 10 mistakes that Brides make when their wedding dress shopping and I'm going to try like I did in my last video to keep this kind of positive in 4-minute want this to be not a video to bash put a video to educate and make your perspective Bridal shopping experience a lot easier si many specific questions about Bridal shopping let me know in the comments below but without further ado let's get started let me start off by saying this first tip which will kind of like roll into a lot of the other tips right the first mistake that I see Brides making a lot I'd say more often than not is not educating themselves I don't mean that to be like tisk tisk you're not smart I just mean you know it's obvious for most people with their first-time gown shopping Brides don't for whatever reason they'll be on Pinterest they'll you know do some Instagram like explore page exploring if you will but they don't really take the time and this was in my last really don't really take the time to find this tech that they like the designers that coincide with the aesthetic the price points at those designers range it's a really easy trail to fall down but for whatever reason I think it must just really back to everybody so excited that they have this sometimes loosely held but some sort of a vision as to what their day is going to be like what they're gonna look like etcetera etcetera and again I know people are like I'm not like that again I said sometimes loosely held vision that they don't necessarily think about the steps that it takes to execute that and the reason why being educated on what you like what that runs what etcetera etcetera how it benefits you is it will show you where to make your bridal appointments cuz you can see what stores have the designers that you like it'll show you the price range of the rest if you are like okay this is a great dress but it retails for five thousand you know you don't want to spend five thousand dollars knock it out of running right so and don't go to that store and try it on so educating yourself before you ever step foot in the door is so so so important like I can't do this how you like I said I've seen Millennials get better at this because we're more inclined to Google and look things up and you know go on Yelp and things like that but there are some people where that's lost on so definitely that's my biggest thing is not just use Pinterest but Google don't be afraid to just Google how much does this cost you know what I mean it's really simple and you'll be able to get some sort of a ballpark my next tip that goes along with that is over shopping this is another really really big mistakes upfront mistake that brides making it's over shopping going to too many places trying on too many dresses this is easy to do when again you have not completely educated yourself on what's out there what's out there in your price range also there's so there's a few reasons why I see girls over shopping this is the path this is the pattern okay the kind of archetype of the over shopped girl one is they don't know what they want okay and they haven't really taken the time introspectively to be like what they want they're just so caught up in the hullabaloo you know what I mean of dress shopping oh my god there's so much out there let me try this on let me see how this looks that they don't actually take a step back a bit okay I want to feel good or I want to feel covered or I want to feel sexy sometimes it's just a buzzword that can help a stylist if they're well trained or they have a good eye you know aid that the second one is the girl who does not want the experience to be over this is the girl who has absolutely loved bringing her you know four best friends her mom her mother-in-law her aunt her cousin with her to each and every appointment loved the champagne loved putting on the show has found the dress and can say to you this is my dress but you can tell as a consultant that she just doesn't want to say yes because she probably wants to prolong the experience and go shopping more and be paid put on more gowns and put on this show this is getting rarer I've seen this less ooh I've seen this less but it's definitely a thing there's just a lot of reasons why you can be over shop but those are some big ones everyone is asking for opinions or bringing in too many people bringing too many people is so tough more people equals more opinions I feel like this is a very common trip more people equals more opinions I totally understand the need the want to include as many important people in your life as possible but there's so many other stages in the process you can include them in sometimes bringing them dress shopping is not the time you can bring the people your decision makers with you know your family dynamic but those core core core core core core people that you need to bring or want to bring and some people don't want to bring anybody and they want to go by themselves and see the vast majority it really depends on who's paying and that kind of gets weird sometimes it gets overwhelming for you for the consultant for other people in the store the people want the people that you bring the more he will out of there the more overwhelming he has the more opinions you have it's just tough next one unrealistic alterations expect expections expectations here's the thing you know people you buy a dress it doesn't it comes in not fitting you or it doesn't fit you if you buy a sample it's not driving you and obviously when you get it fitted you expect that it's gonna look nice on you you expect that it's gonna look like it was altered to you here's what you should not expect right to change your body shape to not have creases when you walk to not look like there's a human in it when you walk I get so many girls being like well this line be there you know what I mean it's like it's like that line when you step in the dress you know basically your hip joint and I'm like here's a thing and I always say this I say this many times I'm like you got a dress and you've got a moving human body in it okay the amount of times I said this out loud to my brides is so funny hearing myself say it like now in this environment like you've got a moving human body in it there's only so much that you can do fabric versus human person right so there's only so much you can do so be realistic here's what you need to look for here's what you need to voice to yourself when you're getting alterations done am I happy with the alteration job that was done in terms of the execution of the quality of work can I walk in the dress and my tripping is it too long does it fit me well okay if there are no gaps are there no holes etcetera etc if you are purely disliking alterations that we're done because you don't like your body in the gown that is a totally different animal and that is really hard I mean it's it's heartbreaking as a female first and as a sales consultant / stylist second because it's like wow this this this woman and this girl is really unhappy with herself so please try to distinguish those two things and you know you get a lot of brides that say the dress is great I just don't like me you know what I'm saying and again most heartbreaking words you can hear I've mentioned this in my last video but it's just so funny this is just so funny and this definitely wasn't like a thing that happened 15 years ago because say yes so the dress didn't exist before that maybe it did I definitely wasn't watching it using TV or your friends or whoever has engaged for your emotional reaction when dress shopping you know some some girls put a dress on they're like yeah I think this is it but they're like why aren't I crying and it's just so funny to hear that because I always have to say are you a crier do you cry regularly do you cry when you make decisions do you cry when you make emotional decisions do you and the girls will be like no and be like so why cry now why would you cry now what my friend said well I see it I'm say yes and just you know everybody arrives that decision differently and everybody everybody is so different there's people who are just more patric about it and more expressive but that doesn't make it any less II yours you know what it doesn't make it any less right it's just that's that's person-to-person don't you use that the questions that you need to ask yourself is and I always say this member is can you see yourself walking down the aisle in it can you see yourself looking back on pictures and loving this dress can you see yourself standing next to your fiancee in it and I say is there anything you change about it if you were to shop somewhere else would you be looking for anything else and if they answer yes yes yes no no to those questions I'm like is this your dress so those are some questions that you can ask yourself to kind of vet it but everybody is everybody arrives that decision differently and if you're indecisive which I get so many brides say I'm so indecisive you know and I say listen if everybody in the world was decisive I wouldn't have a job because you could just come in here and pick out your gown off the rack signed sealed delivered I'm out I mean that's a bit of exaggeration there's a lot of that goes into buying a dress event stuff another mistake Brides make is not putting your bridal blinders on after you buy your gown there's a lot of pretty dresses out there and sometimes after you purchase your gown especially if it's a bit in advance before the wedding you see all these collections coming out if you're constantly scrolling through Pinterest and everything like that of course you're gonna get frustrated of course you're gonna be like oh my god oh did I make the right decision is this the right dress for me it's so tough so put your bridal blinders on pretend that no other dresses out there exist okay to me this is so funny because it's like it's like going on tinder after you found the right guy right it's like why even bother why even look this is another one that I said in my last video if you're not ready to buy don't shop don't it's a waste of your time it's a waste of the consultants time it's a waste of the stores time you're gonna find a dress you love and when the consultant goes to close you you're gonna say oh I only came to try on dresses and but and have fun you spend an hour and a half plus with us we spent an hour and half plus with you it's a lot of time to dedicate to somebody and we take that seriously and we want you to take that seriously too because it is at the end of the day a business transaction and although it can be very very fun and frilly and and girly and Fabian it is a business transaction I really hope that you wouldn't do this but oh my god I'm sure people do I really hope that people don't go to like you know Maserati dealership and test drive cars like for the hell of it like multiple cards and the day just like feel like oh this is I'm not really gonna buy I feel so bad for that salesman right like I would never do that I don't go into a sales environment unless I know I'm serious unless I know that I'm willing to purchase if it's right yeah if you're not ready to buy don't shop okay this is another really big tip I don't want to try to keep this short but you need to remember it that your wedding gown should be so quintessentially you it should be the most you thing that you've ever worn in your life everybody should look at it and be like yes that is Sarah in a wedding gown yes that is Lauren in a wedding gown and just look like you and it should feel like you and it shouldn't feel like you're putting pressure on yourself to be this version of yourself that you're just not you should be you plus a little extra kicked up a notch on your wedding day but this is not the time to please anybody else that isn't you I just I say to my Brides all the time your wedding day is not the time to pull a new fashion stunt it's not the time to try out you know like an updo if you always wear your hair down right like it's not the day so why would you go for something that you never know normally go for on your wedding day granted most people it's their first time in a white gown wedding dress so you know they don't really have a standard or a precedent to live up to I do hear Brides occasion are saying I made that Mis decision because I know that's how my mom wanted me to look in the gown and that's why I think I loved it so much a time because I knew my mama loved it but it's not me and that to me again breaks my heart and it also breaks my heart and this is like I don't want this to sound petty but it breaks my heart that's your dynamic that you have with your mom and my mom if I if I ever put on something that I would never do this but if I her put on something that I knew my mom would love and she knew that I loved it just because she loved it she would shut it down immediately she'd be like this isn't you you know what I mean like this is not you so it breaks my heart when I see girls do that for a whole host of reasons so just remember that this is this is you my very final mistake that Brides make when they're shopping is not having fun have so much fun guys I get girls come in and they'd read it they'd read if they'd read it and they're like I'm so not a dress girl I'm so not girly first of all nobody is forcing you gun to head to be in a bridal shop if you don't want to wear a wedding gown don't wear a wedding gown go to Macy's go to Goodwill go to any store ever and get a white outfit get a black outfit do whatever is you it is supposed to be fun it's not a root canal you know it's not it's not working out it's not even buying a car it's not even buying a house it's not even that serious guy is you know what I mean so definitely just kick back relax understand that it is a big purchase but also enjoy it it's supposed to be so enjoyable and again I said this in my last video but if you feel like the consultant or the store is not making it enjoyable outtie but thank you guys so much for watching this video if you have any questions comments or any requests for more Bridal related videos do let me know thank you all so much for watching please comment subscribe

29 Replies to “DRESS SHOPPING Mistakes Brides Make | Tips from a Bridal Consultant”

  1. My wedding is next year. I have my expectations of what I want but what I want even more is for realistically the dress to absolutely flatter me and personality in a timeless way and be practical too. Lol is that impossible?? My problem is knowing WHAT to go look for for MY body. Seeing everyone else in a dress I like versus seeing me in that dress is so hard to remember I’m not that. I can’t find anyone with my body type in a dress for inspiration on what I need any suggestions? I know what I like I know what I don’t but I don’t know what would make my dress be perceived as flattering and makes me look like the dress was made for me…

  2. I was freaking out a little bit when you said "that is Sarah in a wedding gown", since my name is Sarah.

  3. People are all the time telling me that I’ll “emotionally know” when I’ve found the dress! Like What does that even mean!? I’ve NEVER been an emotional person so why would I cry over a dress? However I 100% get the whole my friend cried, etc thing.

  4. Question: I'm getting married on a bluff overlooking the beach (i.e., dirt and grass, not sand) and always thought that I was going to get a body hugging mermaid dress with a minimal train. BUT THEN, I tried on a ballgown just to see and FELL IN LOVE with the look. I love it. I am just scared it's too much for the venue. Any advice? I'm worried about it not suiting the environment and getting dirty but I just can't stop thinking about this dress. What do I do?

  5. Thank you so much for the advice. I decided that I will not be looking at a million dresses just because I know it will make it very hard for me to choose. What I didn't think about is AFTER getting the dress, I might have done the thing where I look at other dresses afterwards…I now know to just stop looking as soon as I have my dress.

  6. Could you kinda walk through what the process is like, typically from start to finish? Like do your research, call make an appointment, try on x amount of dresses, leave after paying your deposit? Is that pretty standard? Also, if you're not ready to buy, but you want to see some dresses in person, would some stores be able to accommodate that? Some dresses look so different in person rather than online and I wouldn't know what I like and what I should be researching if I am unable to see them for myself

  7. So, since I’m very indecisive, is it okay to go dress shopping and find a dress and then put off buying it until the next day that way I can sleep on the decision?

  8. This advice is useful, but seems a bit like it is focused mainly of the consultant. The reality is that there is a huge proportion of women out there who know very little about fashion because they focus on other things. This is not something to be ashamed of. Just have a go at it, and if your attempts to dive in to the fashion world come at the cost of a few failed wedding dress appointments, who cares? You shouldn't have to research designers unless you're spending a crazy amount.

  9. My mother is a car sales rep. Yes, there are people who come in just to look for fun or test drive cars for fun.
    But they usually have enough wherewithal to say that it's their intention ahead of time. Customers buying today get priority, customers buying next week are after that, and people looking for fun are at the bottom.

  10. Asian Garbage.
    They Look Super-Cheap (because they are) and Cheesy looking. Why anyone would buy from these knockoff sites, and NOT support a LOCAL business is beyond me. Local Business hires and pays your friends and family, while buying online does not. Every time you buy something online, you’ve effectively stolen a sale from your local community.
    -And then you all wonder “why” stores keep closing their doors here in the USA…. Asia Make, US Take.
    ***HOW ABOUT BEING THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD? Did you ever wonder “who” is actually making that dress? It’s Well DOCUMENTED how these places operate. They enslave their workers, they pay them usually by the dress, -and that’s usually only IF they SEW THEIR DAILY QUOTA. Women have their kids at their feet in these non air conditioned “factories” or “clothing mills” and they are paid ****MAYBE a Dollar a Day. But hey, you scored a wedding dress for $65
    Why not use YouTube as a platform to educate your peers and your followers.
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    💔💔💔 https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HHw4HEzzsyc

  11. How many people is a good number?? My mother-in-law is paying, one friend is my decision maker, and two others are the ones that are most important. But 4 people sounds like too many.

  12. Great video! Thank you so much, this helps a lot and you seem very personable. Im sure you were an excellent consultant. I am 45 and just got engaged for the first time and Im super excited! Thanks for the tips and information. 🙂

  13. T I think its hard for brides not to see the dress for such a long time. Thank you for your video, helped me a lot( after I purchased my dress). No more second thoughts on my dress, it's the best)

  14. Great video!! as a bride just starting to shop around this helped a lot! also, where did you get that gorgeous shirt??

  15. What if I'm buying online and need to see how it fits in a store? Meaning im not buying at the store im just trying on to see what style looks good. Which is one of ur mistakes. So what do i do? Cuz i can only afford used wedding dresses online 🙁

  16. I am coming up on my 1 year wedding anniversary, and it’s been about two years since I found my dress and I absolutely love these videos. I also just HAVE to throw this in. I am a VERY emotional personal. I cry for happy things, sad things, confusing things, all kinds of things and I DID NOT CRY when I found my dress. It was very weird for me because I fully expected to cry because I am constantly crying but I didn’t. And I am still absolutely IN LOVE with my dress. It was 100% me and just thee most perfect dress for me but I didn’t cry. And my reason for commenting this is that someone out there reads this and it helps. You don’t have to cry. If you know it’s you and it feels perfect but you don’t cry then please let that be enough. You are not required to cry. Just find a dress that is you, that you love, that you feel amazing and sexy and confident in. ♥️

  17. I keep seeing people not tailoring their dresses and then pulling it up all night. I also see undergarments like they didn’t bring them with them to try on the dress.

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