Why We Feel Confident Wearing Masks / Hiding Ourselves

Why We Feel Confident Wearing Masks / Hiding Ourselves


A mask we put on to hide
ourselves. Why do we feel more confident like this?
Let’s talk about that now. [Autumn Asphodel] Hi everyone! We are going to be
discussing masks and, in my case in the intro, glasses, and how
they make us feel more confident by hiding ourselves. And
ultimately, how we can take off the mask to be our true selves.
How many of us when dressing up in a costume, or wearing dark
glasses, a mask, or anything that hides us makes us feel more
confident? I’m sure we’ve all experienced it. When we dress
up and put on masks, we are pretending to be someone else.
When we are not ourselves, we don’t know our flaws, so we
either hide our flaws by a mask, or be someone else that doesn’t
have these flaws that we do not like about ourselves. While this
can be good and fine for parties and events, what happens when
we cannot feel confident at all unless we are hiding ourselves
or being someone else? This is more common than we think.
Sometimes we wear a mask to hide our true selves and how we
look and express ourselves. We pretend to be someone we are
not to fit in or for social normalcy. The true this, there
is no such thing as normal. Those that proclaim they are
normal are more obedient and do what they are told, versus doing
their own thing. But, they are just as bizarre and strange as
the rest of us since we are all unique individuals and have
the right to express ourselves however we wish. No one can take
that away from us. However, due to low confidence and flaws we
dislike about ourselves, we hide these things under masks and
costumes. Our true self may be hidden from the world and scared
to come out. So how then can we take off the mask and
be more confident? Let’s talk about that now. To take off this mask we put on,
is to find confidence building techniques. What works best for
you? Maybe it’s identifying the things you dislike about
yourself and working on them individually. If there is a lot
of things, you cannot do it all in one sitting. It’ll take time
and dedication with each one individually. Let’s say for
example you have problems with your physical appearance. You
dislike that your nose is too large for example. To most
people who see you, they don’t even notice, but you do because
it’s your body. This feature brings you down. By covering
yourself up, you are being someone other than who you
are. We may even go so far as to physically alter our bodies
through surgeries that not only cost a lot of money, but may
make it even worse. While it may help in one aspect, not
everything works out perfectly, and our quest for perfection
fails us once again. In order to properly cope with this comes
down to accepting these physical aspects of ourselves. We may not
be able to change them by any natural means, but we can learn
to work on ourselves so we can accept these things. How do
we accept these things about ourselves, however? It goes back
to the confidence building. Find little things in each day
that you are appreciative of and happy about. I actually did
a guided meditation about gratitude if you would like to
listen to that since it can help significantly in this area. I’ll
have an annotation and a link in the description. Once you have
begun becoming more appreciative of these things in everyday
life, your attributes you don’t like will follow. Going back to
the example of someone with a large nose, they could be
thankful that they have a nose at all and that it’s functional
and that they can smell good, and bad, scents in the world.
All this comes down to one thing, it could be worse than
what it is. When you change your perspective to be appreciative
and thankful, you will notice a positive shift inside of you,
like the light begins to shine and you begin to accept yourself
for who you are and not be so judgmental of your so called
falls. The idea of perfection we have in our mind is what
brings us down. I did a video about perfection as well
and finding the beauty in imperfections. I’ll have an
annotation and a link in the description to this video
as well. Also realize that insecurities we have with our
body, our thinking, or anything else mostly comes from us
comparing ourselves to others. We are not anyone else, we
are ourselves, and can only be ourselves. But on top of that,
we fear judgment and being made fun of from others. We go along
with whatever anyone else is doing, especially the so called
cool people, to fit in, make friends, and be so called
normal. There is no normal. Can you really call people friends
that don’t really know the real you? No, because when you are
putting on a mask and being someone different, people only
like the mask and not who you are under the mask. Thus, you
cannot call someone a friend who doesn’t even know you. And
finally, realize that it’s not possible to accept everything
about yourself. There are things even those that are the
utmost appreciative and accept themselves will feel self
conscious over. It’s part of the human experience and our ego.
Our ego analyzes everything, compares us to other people who
walk this planet, and forms a comparison of what do they have
that we don’t, and how we can get it, which leads to self
doubt and confidence issues. But as long as you stay with your
true self and goals, this will be minor in comparison to how it
could be when you are always in need of hiding yourself. So in conclusion, we wear a mask
to hide ourselves and our flaws from others. In order to take
this mask off, we must build confidence within ourselves. By
becoming appreciative and taking each thing we dislike about
ourselves one at a time, we can build this confidence and let go
of trying to fit in and having a fear of what others might think
of us. I hope this information was informative and helpful
to you. Have a wonderful day! Thank you for watching my video! If you would like more content,
please feel free to subscribe.

34 Replies to “Why We Feel Confident Wearing Masks / Hiding Ourselves”

  1. I think this is a really good video – but at one point I disagree: I don't think that it's always good to think "it could be worse". I mean, it can definitely help someone who doesn't like a part of their body, but when it comes to maltreatment or mental illnesses I think that thinking that "it could be worse" isn't the best idea since it somehow "takes away" the seriousness…
    Is this shomehow understandable (sorry, my motherlanguage is german, so I sometimes struggle with expressing myself in another language)?

  2. Autmn, I'd like to see more guided meditations from you. I remember really enjoying the ones you've made in the past.

  3. I'm so glad to see your new video. Thank you for what you're doing. Your videos are helping to rethink many important things. They teach how to help yourself and others. Thanks to you I was able to understand myrself and better understand my friend with DID. I wish you happiness in your life, because such person deserves it. Thanks again. I am waiting for new videos.

  4. i like your videos, but i have one request. can you drink water in between? A lot of your videos have such loud sound and all i can hear is your mouth wetness, or the sound of a dry/wet sound. i cant explain it but it's like if you peeled two moist pieces of steak apart. sorry.. don't know how to explain it.

  5. I never really had to use a mask. I tend to attract really unique weird individuals like me so I have never had to put one on.

  6. I would love to see a video where you talk about the movie Split and talk about the truths of the movie and what's wrong about the movie. As you know Split is a new movie from M. Night Shymalan about a man with 23 personalities trying to unleash a 24th personality.

  7. Autumn, you should do a video on Body Dysmorphic Disorder! I suffer from it, and it has made me agoraphobic for many years! It's so debilitating and makes me feel inferior to others! I would love for you to do a video on this and bring awareness to this hidden illness, because it is so draining living this way! Thank you, Autumn!!

  8. You forgot one point tho. Define the term" yourself" You as a person change all the time due to experiences and new thoughts in life. While there is no definite "yourself" I still agree with you, people with a secret face should stop wearing their mask and show what they really are.

  9. You are so Smart & Beautiful inside and out. You are so Wise & Amazing!!!! I absolutely Love your necklace, did you buy it? Make it???? It's Lovely, glad I found you again!!! Been subbed a few yrs but I didn't have notifications on, I do now thankfully!!!! Hope you are All doing Well!!!!!💙⚘💙⚘💙⚘💙⚘💙⚘💜⚘💜⚘💜⚘💜⚘💚⚘💚⚘💚⚘💚⚘💛⚘💛⚘💛⚘

  10. Nice video, thank you. I am working on taking off my mask and noticing when I have it. It´sabout feeling my real feelings/thoughts for me.

  11. the problem i have is that my masks are hidden but because i don't really know who i am, i conform to those around me and put on a mask to fit in with them… thou it cracks easily… you see with my social anxiety which i didn't even realize i had until a year or two ago, means the longer i wear the mask the more i feel its breaking, the more i feel that they're all looking at me or that i'm not fitting in… then my brain switches to a self destructive mode, where i basically sabotage my relationship with others, so they don't decide to stay around… its pretty successful, i'm very open about it of course and will share its a defense mechanism… but i have very very few friends willing to put up with me. so wearing a physical mask would lend itself more to role playing for me than being myself, but i agree that for normal folk, wearing a mask lets you be you…but as i said i don't know who i really am. hopefully that made sense, peace.

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